Let’s talk about sex baby, let’s talk about you and me… Let’s talk about.. all the good things and the bad things that maybe … Let’s talk about.. sex… Let’s talk about…..

It’s been an exciting week, literally.  The whole country is finally talking about sex. For Kenya that’s a first. HIV/Aids, STDs, Sex Education, broken marriages, rape, incest, sodomy… nothing has ever been able to make Kenyans talk about sex openly and freely and with so much passion. Nothing.


Then Ka-boom!!! Women leaders —– who else —- got the country so excited…. it must have been a moment of pure ecstasy for sex therapists (yes we do have them!!!) marriage counsellors, pro-sex educationists, mistresses, commercial sex workers. Their pet subject was on everyone’s lips (ahem).

All it took was a simple declaration from the women leaders. No real leadership from the men, no sex.

Nothing new in that. Apparently it has been done in ancient Greece, and in modern day Denmark.

So why has it caused such an uproar in Kenya? A society where everything — life included—- is taken casually? Is sex that important?

There is only one reason. That Kenyan women chose to politicise what Kenyan men think is their reason for being on earth. Sex has been used in Kenya as a political tool (cases of rape by security forces and criminals during civil unrest abound in this country).

Liar liar

I dare one Kenyan man to say in public that he has NEVER been denied sex by his partner/spouse at any one point in his life for whatever reason. Just one man.

Sex boycott happens everyday.

Women of all ages, at all times, everywhere around the world have used sex to punish, coerce, humiliate, blackmail and cajole men to do stuff. And the men get completely flaccid.

Generally women deny men sex because they know it will get them attention. And in Kenya attention it did get and will get for the next so many days.


Kenyans for once are talking about sex outside the scope of rape, incest and sodomy. Oh yes, that’s the kind of sex we are comfortable with. We splash it on our papers, broadcast it on tv and radio, seek photo ops in hospitals with victims of this type of sex. We would rather talk about the criminal aspects of sex than the pure, sensual, sweaty, humping and grinding type that makes big men cry. What hypocrisy!! But cying they are now. Crying foul.

So, many Kenyans out there are laughing at the expense of the G10, calling them names, and twisting the ideals behind the sex boycott… but look again behind the loud laughs and high voices. They understand the power behind it. Because they have suffered its consequences on a personal level.

The sex boycott got tongues wagging. It got men for ONCE to talk about the sanctity of the marriage bed!! Unbelieveable! In a society where the latest popular radio and TV advert is chasting men for violating this same sanctity even in the face of death!!! And all of a sudden Kenyan men are all about marriage bed this and marriage bed that!! PLEASE, my brothers. Cut the crap. Kenyan men know on a personal level that a sex boycott is real, it is alive and at work, and that given a political context it’s a whole new game!

We all could be laughing and cracking bad jokes about the call by the G10, but it got us to look at politics with a passionate eye. And passion with a political eye.

The G10 has certainly refreshed our boring politics.